In contemporary Western culture death and dying are generally regarded as something to fight against, deny, hide from public view and above all fear. But what if we were to look at them differently? Despite understandable fear and denial, we may have very good reasons to want to learn more about death and dying. Thinking about and experiencing mortality–our own and that of others–can make us our lives richer, deeper and more valuable to us. Mortality in truth is the intensification of life.
There will be over 20 participatory workshops, performances, talks and ceremonies on different aspects of death and dying over two days. In addition to talks and discussions, you will have experiences, which do justice to the full spectrum of what is at stake in mortality.
Festival Director: Peter Banki, Ph.D
Curatorial Advisor and Festival Dramaturgy: Victoria Spence
When? 16-17 November
Where? Drill Hall, 1c New Beach Road, Darling Point
Exploring where you are right now is often more interesting and valuable than where you think you want to be.
Come join Alessandra Massi and Peter Banki for an evening of exploration and intensity.
When? 18 July 7pm (AEST, Sydney time)
Where? On Zoom
Cost? $27
Have you had a challenging psychedelic experience or one that you have struggled to make sense of? Do you yearn for a community where you can reflect on and share your non-ordinary states of consciousness with others?
The integration circle will offer a compassionate, curious and confidential space for those who have used psychedelics or have accessed extraordinary states via other means (such as breathwork, fasting, experiences known as ‘psychosis’ or spiritual emergency).
You will be offered an opportunity to openly explore and share your encounters. Small group sharing, drawing and writing, as well as movement, breathwork and/or meditation may be employed to provide you with different avenues to work through your journey(s). The intention of this session is for the insights received through the non-ordinary experiences to become embodied and integrated into one’s life, instead of a collection of memories that quickly fade into the background.
We acknowledge that the use of psychedelics continues in our society despite a long history of criminalisation. This group neither encourages nor condemns the use of psychoactive substances. We provide education and harm minimisation interventions to those who make their own choice to partake.
Natalia (she/her) grew up in Poland and settled in Australia 20 years ago. She is a social worker, body researcher and plant medicine enthusiast. She has spent the last decade working in drug and alcohol, “mental health”/psychiatric complex and the disability sector. Before that, she worked as a Hawaiian bodyworker and massage therapist for 8 years. She has been part of the Erotic Living community since 2011.
Current interests: rock climbing, black holes, Internal Family Systems, subtle embodied states.
If you know Natalia, you might know that she is happiest when found in nature bushwalking, stargazing and rock wrangling 😀
Natalia also provides support in preparation and integration in the field of psychedelics.
In the Silent Play Space, light, sound and silence create a concentrated atmosphere for individual processes, collective actions and deep play.
Live musicians provide tempo, rhythm and color for an ever-changing celebration.
ATTENTION: This is a silent space. No verbal expression except whispers, communication only by little notes and messages.
To underline the special atmosphere some dressing up (shiny clothes) is requested.
Space Design: Alessandra Massi and Peter Banki
Live Music and Gong Bath: Julia Collins-Haynes
Concept inspired by the Silent Play Space at Xplore Berlin
Cost: $79 (Early Bird until 1st November); $99 (Full Price)
If this is your first festival, you must attend this workshop on the Friday night at 7pm before the festival.
Can’t come in person? Join the online session.
When? 27 September, 7pm (AEST, check in your time zone)
Cost? AUD $27
Zoom link provided on registration
Can’t come in person? Join the online session.
When? 27 September, 7pm (AEST, check in your time zone)
Cost? AUD $27
Zoom link provided on registration
In the Silent Play Space, light, sound and silence create a concentrated atmosphere for individual processes, collective actions and deep play.
Live musicians provide tempo, rhythm and color for an ever-changing celebration.
ATTENTION: This is a silent space. No verbal expression except whispers, communication only by little notes and messages.
To underline the special atmosphere some dressing up (white clothes) is requested.
Space Design: Alessandra Massi and Peter Banki
Live Music and Gong Bath: Julia Collins-Haynes
Concept inspired by the Silent Play Space at Xplore Berlin
If you wish to receive an invitation, please book in a zoom call with us here.
Cost: $79 (Early Bird until 1st September); $99 (Full Price)
Risk, philosophers say, is an antidote to trauma. For if trauma captures the future in such a way that our present becomes modelled on past experiences, a line of risk opens the possibility of the new, the unknown.
To heal, we actually need to take risks.
But to do so intelligently and beautifully, we need not only support from others we trust, but also a sustained practice of self-connection, internal listening, what the polyvagal people call interoception and neuroception.
Alessandra Massi and Peter Banki invite you on a journey of erotic mindfulness to help you find the courage and energy to take the risks that are uniquely yours.
Dance, costume, role play, embodiment, sensuality, breath and time are some of the tools we use.
Sometimes it is not so much going towards an other that is truly risky, but allowing ourselves to feel ourselves and be seen, without stopping at the taboos imposed about how we think we’re supposed to be or act.
How can I not let fear of rejection rule me?
How can I find the courage to fall? And then get up again?
How can I cultivate myself for who I might be rather than who I am?
Feeling alive is not a given, it is a task.
Here are the details
When? Saturday & Sunday, 1-2 July, 1-5pm
Where? Brandx, 36 Burton Street, Darlinghurst
Cost? $149 (Early Bird until tomorrow 25th June, $199 thereafter, EL Members free)
About the Workshop:
Alessandra Massi and Peter Banki have curated a unique event that embraces the thrilling allure of risk, fusing it with pleasure, sensuality, and personal exploration. This workshop goes beyond societal norms, encouraging participants to venture beyond their comfort zones and embrace the unknown.
Are you experiencing grief at the moment? Grief for the loss of loved one through death or separation? Grief for things lost due to your changes in your life, lost time, lost capacity? For every change we experience there is grief. Sometimes imperceptibly.
Grief is an inevitable part of living and loving. it is so important in our time to have a space in community to acknowledge one’s grief and to share it. It is the sharing that makes grief survivable and opens us to the possibility to grow from what we’ve experienced.
Join Aviva Pinkus and Peter Banki for a ritualistic based evening bringing music and other creative modalities to grief. There will be a circle to share what’s alive in us, sound healing, meditation and a space to make offerings and share images and other important objects.
It is an evening for anyone who has experienced any form of loss and wishes to be in community.
When? Monday, May 22 arrival from 6:30pm, we begin at 7pm
Where? Tribal Soul, 353 King Street, Newtown (no sign out front)
Cost? $27
Have you had a challenging psychedelic experience or one that you have struggled to make sense of? Do you yearn for a community where you can reflect on and share your non-ordinary states of consciousness with others?
The integration circle will offer a compassionate, curious and confidential space for those who have used psychedelics or have accessed extraordinary states via other means (such as breathwork, fasting, experiences known as ‘psychosis’ or spiritual emergency).
You will be offered an opportunity to openly explore and share your encounters. Small group sharing, drawing and writing, as well as movement, breathwork and/or meditation may be employed to provide you with different avenues to work through your journey(s). The intention of this session is for the insights received through the non-ordinary experiences to become embodied and integrated into one’s life, instead of a collection of memories that quickly fade into the background.
We acknowledge that the use of psychedelics continues in our society despite a long history of criminalisation. This group neither encourages nor condemns the use of psychoactive substances. We provide education and harm minimisation interventions to those who make their own choice to partake.
Natalia (she/her) grew up in Poland and settled in Australia 20 years ago. She is a social worker, body researcher and plant medicine enthusiast. She has spent the last decade working in drug and alcohol, “mental health”/psychiatric complex and the disability sector. Before that, she worked as a Hawaiian bodyworker and massage therapist for 8 years. She has been part of the Erotic Living community since 2011.
Current interests: rock climbing, black holes, Internal Family Systems, subtle embodied states.
If you know Natalia, you might know that she is happiest when found in nature bushwalking, stargazing and rock wrangling 😀
Natalia also provides support in preparation and integration in the field of psychedelics.
Are you one of those people who spends most of their time in their heads?
I most certainly am.
But over many years I’ve learned that if I connect daily with my body and my breath, my mind becomes cooler and stronger - and I make more skillful decisions in life.
Yoga is firstly not for the body, but for the chitta: the consciousness, mind, awareness and moral uprightness that it brings. Body strength and flexibility are just a by-product.
For the first time I’ve decided to offer an introductory yoga course for the curious and the brave, called “Yoga for Erotic Life”.
One of my teachers, Debbie Belnick, has given me permission to teach in her studio in Bondi Junction.
Yoga is an energetic practice and not a dogma.
I’ve been practicing yoga for over 20 years.
I could not have written a Ph.D without it, nor could I have hosted so many wild sexuality festivals.
Before a large festival I almost always do a 5 day yoga intensive.
Yogic practice is, if you like, my secret weapon. It gives me the resources to cope with the inevitable turbulence that festivals create.
It’s also one of the reasons I feel so close to the work of Joseph Kramer, who has developed a Yoga of Sex.
Another mentor, Felix Ruckert, who has been doing the work much longer than I, also practices yoga every day.
In Love and Lust,
Peter Banki, Ph.D.
Are you secretly in love with poetry?
Do you find that words touch something within you that you can only otherwise faintly sense is there?
This workshop with Australian poet Richard James Allen will examine poetry as a heightened state of sensitivity, an alternate position of consciousness, perhaps even the music of the soul - if we are willing to surrender to it.
Richard James Allen’s poetry has appeared widely in journals, anthologies, and online, and he has been a popular reader at multiple performing arts venues, over many years. Books include: More Lies (Interactive Press, 2021), The short story of you and I (UWAP, 2019), Fixing the Broken Nightingale (Flying Island Books, 2014), The Kamikaze Mind (Brandl & Schlesinger, 2006) and Thursday’s Fictions (Five Islands Press, 1999), shortlisted for the Kenneth Slessor Prize for Poetry. Richard is well-known for his multi-award-winning career as a filmmaker and choreographer with The Physical TV Company and as a performer in a range of media and contexts.
When? Monday, 26th September at 7:30
Where? Zoom session, recording included with enrollment
Cost? $27
One of the hardest things for us today is simply to slow down.
We are too much in our heads, worrying too much about pleasing others and being loved.
Too stressed
Slowing Down is the key to reconnecting with yourself.
It is the most direct route to deeper pleasure.
In this 8 week journey, somatic sexologist, Cristiana Bolli, will take you on a journey into enhanced sensation and self-connection, what she calls, Sexy Vipassana.
You will have time both to integrate what is taught and come back to the course.
Join a community of people who are doing the same thing. Show up every week for yourself and for your pleasure.
Choosing what you want, to receive the “yes” and “no”s of your body, to feel pleasure and to feel what is there be to be felt.
YOUR FACILITATORS
Mike Haslett loves sensory play and giving healing touch, he’s a massage therapist of 8 years who’s also quite kinky and a lot of fun. He has facilitated tantric massage and been a dungeon master for many years.
Heide Getrost is a sacred sexuality practitioner and is passionate about deepening love in union. She is a graduate of the three ISTA levels (International School of Temple Arts) and Practitioner.
Together they teach tantra and conscious kink workshops infused with their balance of the masculine, feminine and their loving presence. They create a fun and safe educational space for seekers to explore their tantric and kinky edges.
Has you ever wanted hard cock and couldn’t deliver?
This is a fear all men have.
Do you lack confidence you can please her? Maybe you fear communicating to her that s/he’s not desirable. Maybe your body betrays you!
In this workshop, Mikey Haslett, with help from his partner, Heide Getrost, will take a careful approach to a sensitive issue, which concerns virtually all men, especially when they reach a certain age.
We will offer:
A safe space to talk about what’s usually under the carpet
Scientific data about causes and solutions
A personal testimony about how we as a couple have dealt with this issue and approaches we have found that really work
How as a woman you can support your man to remove the shame attached to having a soft cock
How to work with a soft cock! Techniques for Energetic Lovemaking to penetrate with cock consciousness.
General health, supplements, a sense of humour, mental outlook and ways to communicate with your partner.
YOUR FACILITATORS
Mike Haslett loves sensory play and giving healing touch, he’s a massage therapist of 8 years who’s also quite kinky and a lot of fun. He has facilitated tantric massage and been a dungeon master for many years.
Heide Getrost is a sacred sexuality practitioner and is passionate about deepening love in union. She is a graduate of the three ISTA levels (International School of Temple Arts) and Practitioner.
Together they teach tantra and conscious kink workshops infused with their balance of the masculine, feminine and their loving presence. They create a fun and safe educational space for seekers to explore their tantric and kinky edges.
Have you considered suicide?
We do not ask this question flippantly.
The philosopher, Albert Camus, argued that suicide is the most urgent philosophical question.
All other questions presuppose an answer to this one.
Suicide is an occupational hazard for anyone really.
Some of our friends, who are philosophers, have chosen to end their lives.
In this session we will engage personal and philosophical reflections on the pleasures and hazards of an examined life. We will share what philosophers such as Camus, Hegel, Socrates and others have had to say on the topic.
When? Monday, 8th August @ 7:30pm (AEST)
Cost? $27 (EL Members Free)
How? Zoom link sent on registration.
NB: This is intended as a philosophical and not therapeutic workshop.
How we do anything is how we do everything. Learn how to understand your feelings as the body’s language of needs to inform effective action. By enhancing your ability to connect harmoniously with yourself and others in the playspace, you increase your capacity to show up authentically in life.
The Magical Experience is a curated play party which explores theatricality, ceremony and poetry in the context of erotic play. The purpose of the temple is to create a ritual space separated from our ordinary everyday life experience. We strongly encourage you to wear a sexy outfit or costume. To get some ideas about appropriate costumes, please click here. To purchase an appropriate outfit, we recommend paying a visit to Sax Fetish or High Hells in Darlinghurst or Max Black in Newtown.
If you’re curious about spaces of erotic permission and how to navigate them, this is an ideal introduction. It will give you a really clear idea of what these spaces are like and how to navigate them.
One can use BDSM play to create art and also as a means to get very turned-on. Yes, one can do that. But at a deeper level BDSM play is also a very powerful way to deal with trauma—both personal and cultural. In this workshop, we will discuss techniques to create deep and healing forms of play both for yourself and those who you love.
Developing our sexual voice and our erotic articulation skills is fundamental if we are to live fulfilling erotic lives. Yet, the social models we have for this are sorely lacking and consent discussions while super important only take us so far. This workshop is in part about finding the space between BDSM negotiation, Tantric conventions and sex education literacy to collaboratively develop our vocabularies for pleasure.
Experience the deep intimacy that comes from fully giving or receiving touch with intentional presence! In this workshop, you will learn tantric mantras, breathwork, visualizations, and full-body touch.
“I have been coming to Erotic Living events since 2017, each time has given me ways be a better person - to myself and to others - not only in the erotic space, but in all aspects of my personal and professional life. I will be coming for many years to come and wish I had these opportunities given to me as a young woman.”
Kim McBurnie, Sydney
“I write this testimonial a day after The Festival of Erotic Living and I feel alive, refreshed, satisfied and hungry all at the same time. The world doesn't have an environment to discuss our needs and fantasies, but the safe space created here means you are not judged, in fact it is encouraged.”
VJ Raju Dorai about the most recent EL Festival on November 1, 2020, Sydney
“We had a great day and found it pitched at the right level. Tastefully run without being overtly sexual. There were many tips on communication that we’ve taken away and practice now. We’ll certainly be back for more so thanks for a great day.”
A&E about the most recent EL Festival on November 1, 2020, Sydney
“EL offers people genuine, meaningful education in a very challenging, confusing and very misunderstood part of life.”
Jacqueline Hellyer, sex therapist based in Sydney.
“Peter Banki is an erotic catalyst. I give him my highest recommendation.”
Joseph Kramer, Ph.D., Founder of the Profession of Sexological Bodywork in California
“Thank you Peter for making the world a sexier place”
Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. artist and eco sexual sexecologist and feminist.
Before we can open up and play, we need to feel safe. This is a fundamental truth that is becoming better understood today. Teaching ourselves how to feel safe and then sharing this feeling with others — is quite simply — the condition for a happy and successful life and deep erotic connection.
In this 2 hour in-person workshop, we will practice feeling safe by:
Down-regulating our nervous systems through non-threatening touch and being held;
Sharing music and breathing together;
Learning to modulate our voices;
Practicing intimacy with others without expectation.
Register now for Healing our Nervous Systems
Cost? $49 per person; $79 couple.
When? Sunday 27th February at 6pm,
Where? Leela Centre, Darlinghurst
Free for Our EL Members. Learn More about Living Erotically: Our 12 month Membership Program
Suggested Reading: Stephen Porges The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe.
How do you bring presence, communication, breath and sound to the act of spanking to make it a healing and a deeper experience?
Heide and Mikey take a light hearted and embodied approach to:
* Explore the anatomy of spanking.
* Experiment on ourselves with different types of spanks.
* Slow it down, be present and journey into the nuances and responses in our body.
You’ll come away with some practical tips and insights to take into your play.
Cost? $27 per person
When? Sunday 20th February at 6pm,
Where? Zoom link will be provided when you book
Free for Our EL Members. Learn More about Living Erotically: Our 12 month Membership Program
Hot wax dripping over your partner’s naked, vulnerable flesh will send shivers of excitement down their spine and a rush of warmth over their skin – nothing more – as you both enjoy the relaxing flickering of the candlelight. This Wax Play Workshop will show you how wax play can be sensual and enjoyable for everyone involved.
Conscious Erotic Dancing is created to awaken and attune our healing and creative energies, from molecular level in the deepest core of our biological being to complete transcendence. It is not concerned with learning but with remembering and recognizing what belongs to our original, primary nature.
Our society encourages us to search for “the one”, to find our “better half” and to rely on our romantic partner to anticipate and meet all of our needs. We know we can have nurturing relationships with multiple friends, co-workers, and relatives without threatening our other relationships.
So what happens if we reject society’s scarcity model of love and let go of ownership of our romantic partner? We can begin to think of love and erotic energy as coming from a place of abundance, with room for sensual exploration, sexual adventures and long-lasting, fulfilling relationships. Ethical non-monogamy offers tools for taking responsibility for our own happiness, building communication, intimacy, trust, and freedom to explore different aspects of ourselves with others. Lydia will share some of the mindset adjustments and communication rituals that she and her partners use to ensure everyone feels safe, respected and loved.
Meet the festival presenters, learn about verbal and body consent, and how best to navigate through the festival.
To ensure that all festival participants can practice informed consent, all new attendees to Erotic Living must attend the Opening Ceremony, which will happen on Zoom at 6pm the night before the festival. (Link given on registration)
Play piercing can produce an endorphin high, which can last for hours and can induce orgasm in many of the people who experience it. It is body piercing done for the purpose of enjoying the experience rather than producing a permanent body decoration. The experience of multiple piercings in an erotically or spiritually charged context is something to experience.
You can tickle, cuddle, stroke or caress the bark of each tree. Explore their branches, their leaves, their scent or their taste. Sharing your love and attention between these great flora specimens, creating a safe space to experiment with pleasure. Then surrender yourself, as you become ‘The Forest’. Experience the tickles, the cuddles, stokes and caresses of loving hands. As the distraction of attraction hides in darkness, your pleasure can emerge into the light. How much will you let go? How much will you surrender?
When people come into the erotic space, there is the perceived pressure to feel sexual or erotic when we may feel scared or exhausted or insecure. Putting self-care first means turns towards how you are feeling and prioritizing meeting your underlying needs. We will practice asking our intuition the question “what are we needing now? From that place we come to this place from a place of abundance instead of lack, which makes us more capable of connecting with others in an authentic way.
Self-Love is a Key enabler in the Erotic Space.
“I have been coming to Erotic Living events since 2017, each time has given me ways be a better person - to myself and to others - not only in the erotic space, but in all aspects of my personal and professional life. I will be coming for many years to come and wish I had these opportunities given to me as a young woman.”
Kim McBurnie, Sydney
“I write this testimonial a day after The Festival of Erotic Living and I feel alive, refreshed, satisfied and hungry all at the same time. The world doesn't have an environment to discuss our needs and fantasies, but the safe space created here means you are not judged, in fact it is encouraged.”
VJ Raju Dorai about the most recent EL Festival on November 1, 2020, Sydney
“We had a great day and found it pitched at the right level. Tastefully run without being overtly sexual. There were many tips on communication that we’ve taken away and practice now. We’ll certainly be back for more so thanks for a great day.”
A&E about the most recent EL Festival on November 1, 2020, Sydney
“EL offers people genuine, meaningful education in a very challenging, confusing and very misunderstood part of life.”
Jacqueline Hellyer, sex therapist based in Sydney.
“Peter Banki is an erotic catalyst. I give him my highest recommendation.”
Joseph Kramer, Ph.D., Founder of the Profession of Sexological Bodywork in California
“Thank you Peter for making the world a sexier place”
Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. artist and eco sexual sexecologist and feminist.
If you’re interested in connecting erotically with people, honestly rope is the way to go, regardless of your gender or orientation. Because there are so many people out there who love to be tied.
👉🏽Erotic rope bondage is very powerful experience to be able to offer someone who you might be interested to connect with.
Indeed there is an art to connecting deeply with your partner through rope without at any moment crossing theirs or your own boundaries.
☘️This Saturday 18th December at the Leela Centre in Darlinghurst Avalon will be teaching a full day of Shibari from beginner to intermediate level. Italian-born, charming and sophicated, Avalon is definitely one of the most experienced and creative Nawashi in Australia.
This a great opportunity to learn about Shibari, otherwise known as Japanese Bondage, these classes will cover History , different practices, safety, consent and much more.
This class is a hands on class where we will teach how to tie safely and enjoy the ropes from the get go , we will teach some basic elements of rope and followed by a couple of complete ties. Ideal for those approaching rope for the first time or wanting to refresh their basics.
This class follows through from the beginners class and we will teach some more complex ties and methodologies developed by Avalon in his years of teaching all over the world. This class is ideal for those that have already enjoyed the pleasures of rope and wish to deepen their knowledge.
This is a 18+ event , no minors are allowed.
Bio and info on Avalon :
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/123avalon/
Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/123avalon/
Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/294780
“Using BDSM to Cope with Trauma” Vice Guide to Sex
For many BDSM practitioners, the purpose of play is not primarily linked to sexual arousal, but the altered states of consciousness that it can facilitate in both Bottoms and Tops. While the BDSM community isn't tied to any religious ideology, the practice does share an important commonality with some spiritual meditation traditions that involve pain. This workshop will explore the spiritual dimensions of BDSM in relation to trance states, being in the present moment through pain, and the mystery of the un-known.
Come expand the range of your energetic sexual experience and expand your capacity to feel more of everything including bliss and pleasure as well as connection, without needing physical touch. Come reclaim your sexual power & sovereignty as you discover your capacity to awaken, cultivate, expand & move your sexual energy on your own & with others all from withing your own body through breath movement sound & visualization.
Shibari is a unique and sensual art form that involves tying geometric patterns and shapes with rope that contrast with the human body’s natural curves. The ropes and their texture provide contrast to smooth skin and curves. In Shibari, the model is the canvas, the rope is the paint and brush, and the rigger is the rope artist. Originally developed as a form of capture, torture or presentation of prisoners by the Samurai, it has developed over time into a sensual art form.
While holding forms an integral part of many physical interactions, and while it can, by itself, generate intense emotions and sensations, it is rarely investigated on its own merit. Often we do not actually feel safely held, even though that is what we long for (we can only truly let go when we know that someone will be there to hold us). Once we understand what it is that makes being held a less than satisfying experience, we can be clearer about what it is that we wish to feel in an embrace and where to place our attention.
This session will be a process of stripping back the socialised self and dropping into a state of pure being.
In this workshop we will look at the ways in which fear affects the body and how we can utilise this to create a heightened sensory and erotic experience for someone. We will explore different methods for safely inducing fear and look at the depth of feelings and sensations that lead up to and follow fear. We will experiment with knife play and face slapping as well as playing with proximity, volume and anticipation.
Meet the festival presenters, learn about verbal and body consent, and how best to navigate through the festival. To ensure that all festival participants can practice informed consent, everyone must attend the Opening Ceremony.
Temple Night is a curated play party which explores theatricality, ceremony and poetry in the context of erotic play. There will be live music to accompany and inspire you through the evening.
“I have been coming to Erotic Living events since 2017, each time has given me ways be a better person - to myself and to others - not only in the erotic space, but in all aspects of my personal and professional life. I will be coming for many years to come and wish I had these opportunities given to me as a young woman.”
Kim McBurnie, Sydney
“I write this testimonial a day after The Festival of Erotic Living and I feel alive, refreshed, satisfied and hungry all at the same time. The world doesn't have an environment to discuss our needs and fantasies, but the safe space created here means you are not judged, in fact it is encouraged.”
VJ Raju Dorai about the most recent EL Festival on November 1, 2020, Sydney
“We had a great day and found it pitched at the right level. Tastefully run without being overtly sexual. There were many tips on communication that we’ve taken away and practice now. We’ll certainly be back for more so thanks for a great day.”
A&E about the most recent EL Festival on November 1, 2020, Sydney
“EL offers people genuine, meaningful education in a very challenging, confusing and very misunderstood part of life.”
Jacqueline Hellyer, sex therapist based in Sydney.
“Peter Banki is an erotic catalyst. I give him my highest recommendation.”
Joseph Kramer, Ph.D., Founder of the Profession of Sexological Bodywork in California
“Thank you Peter for making the world a sexier place”
Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. artist and eco sexual sexecologist and feminist.
You can tickle, cuddle, stroke or caress the bark of each tree. Explore their branches, their leaves, their scent or their taste. Sharing your love and attention between these great flora specimens, creating a safe space to experiment with pleasure. Then surrender yourself, as you become ‘The Forest’. Experience the tickles, the cuddles, stokes and caresses of loving hands. As the distraction of attraction hides in darkness, your pleasure can emerge into the light. How much will you let go? How much will you surrender?
From “I think about having threesomes with my wife’s best friend” to “I can’t stop thinking about being tied up during sex” there are no limits to the unspoken desires people have. The brain...is the most erogenous zone in the body,
It can be scary to admit your sexual fantasies to yourself, let alone to say them out loud to someone else, who might not like them. Nonetheless, in admitting to ourselves and others what turns us on, we create trust and intimacy.
Many of us rarely self-pleasure.
And if we do, it is often in a hurried manner, leaving us with shame afterwards.
Sometimes sex education starts with yourself. And pleasure starts within. In this workshop we will guide you through practices where you will use your own intuitive wisdom to discover what satisfies you.
I am my own lover. I touch myself and give myself tenderness, intimacy, lust, love. A journey across your skin with your own hands, fingertips like eyes, exploring an amazing landscape, beautiful, intense, exciting. Gently guided experience into new spaces of lustful self love.
Meet the festival presenters, learn about verbal and body consent, and how best to navigate through the festival. To ensure that all festival participants can practice informed consent, everyone must attend the Opening Ceremony.
The Magical Experience is a curated play party which explores theatricality, ceremony and poetry in the context of erotic play. There will be live music to accompany and inspire you through the evening.
This Workshop focuses on "impact play" as a medium for sensory pleasure. We will navigate intimacy with in a power dynamic and explore the nuances of both giving and receiving impact, with a focus on the responsibility and intention that exist in both roles.
In age play, we eroticise familiar structures and roles. We play with taboo fantasies, such as mummy, daddy, little girl, little boy, teacher, student and so on. Like all BDSM, it happens only between consenting adults. Age play is not pedophilia.
“I have been coming to Erotic Living events since 2017, each time has given me ways be a better person - to myself and to others - not only in the erotic space, but in all aspects of my personal and professional life. I will be coming for many years to come and wish I had these opportunities given to me as a young woman.”
Kim McBurnie, Sydney
“I write this testimonial a day after The Festival of Erotic Living and I feel alive, refreshed, satisfied and hungry all at the same time. The world doesn't have an environment to discuss our needs and fantasies, but the safe space created here means you are not judged, in fact it is encouraged.”
VJ Raju Dorai about the most recent EL Festival on November 1, 2020, Sydney
“We had a great day and found it pitched at the right level. Tastefully run without being overtly sexual. There were many tips on communication that we’ve taken away and practice now. We’ll certainly be back for more so thanks for a great day.”
A&E about the most recent EL Festival on November 1, 2020, Sydney
“EL offers people genuine, meaningful education in a very challenging, confusing and very misunderstood part of life.”
Jacqueline Hellyer, sex therapist based in Sydney.
“Peter Banki is an erotic catalyst. I give him my highest recommendation.”
Joseph Kramer, Ph.D., Founder of the Profession of Sexological Bodywork in California
“Thank you Peter for making the world a sexier place”
Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. artist and eco sexual sexecologist and feminist.
