Are you sometimes unsure of what you really want in life? Do you sometimes feel that you want more love and less searching?

Do you yearn for a deeper level of connection, pleasure and intimacy?

Society does not encourage us to be ourselves. It encourages us to conform. But when it comes to our sexuality and intimate lives, trying to fit in—or be someone else--is particularly dangerous. You will never get your needs met and you will not find the people who truly inspire and nurture you.

Like in the natural world, human sexuality is Extremely Diverse. What ultimately makes you desirable and interesting is who you are in your uniqueness and Your Relationship to It. ****If you have a non-conforming body or non-conforming erotic interests, you can find people who will be attracted to you, if you accept yourself. At Erotic Living, the core of our work has to do with Accepting Who We Are – and Not Being Ashamed of It and Creating Purpose in our Lives from that Place.

A great deal of adult sex education these days, however well-intentioned, reinforces gender and cultural stereotypes. While so-called feminine or masculine archetypes or "erotic blueprints" may be helpful, they tend to reinforce the idea that in order to find yourself you have to fit into the categories that someone else has made. At Erotic Living we believe that it is much more sustainable to Stay Curious and discover what makes you a Minority Of One.

Come on a journey with us to discover who you are as an Erotic Being and how to create intention and purpose in your life from that place!

Peter Banki, Ph.D founded Erotic Living on 1 February, 2020. Previously, he directed the School of Really Good Sex from 2015-2020, and prior to that he curated Xplore - Festival of the Art of Lust in Sydney from 2011-2013. He says: “When you are intimate with someone, you witness them at their most open and vulnerable, whatever their role. Much more than their skills or competence, it’s their being that is truly exciting.”

Peter has an extensive background in Iyengar yoga, dance and the martial arts (Capoeira Angola). His somatic and movement practice forms the basis of his work in the sphere of eroticism.

Peter has also been a scholar and teacher of European philosophy and literature for much of his adult life. Philosophers such as Friedrich Nietzsche and Georges Bataille, Anne Dufourmantelle, Avital Ronell and Jean-Luc Nancy have most inspired him in his thinking about sexuality and eroticism. He holds a Ph.D in German studies from New York University (September, 2009). His book The Forgiveness To Come:  the Holocaust and the Hyper-Ethical  came out recently with Fordham University Press. Articles about Peter's work on The Festival of Really Good Sex have been featured in many news outlets, including The Guardian, Archer Magazine, ABC Radio National and news.com. He has also been interviewed about the Festival of Death and Dying, which he also founded and directs, on ABC Radio and the Sydney Morning Herald. His work on apology and forgiveness has been featured on 2SER and on the philosophers’ zone on ABC Radio National.

A selection of Peter's academic publications can be found at www.peterbanki.com