The so-called #metoo moment has had a strong impact on many sex-positive and kink communities around the world. It has caused major reassessments as well as painful fractures following accusations of consent violation, sexual abuse and even rape. The Sydney and Melbourne sex-positive and kink communities have not been spared these effects. For this reason, rather than avoid the elephant in the room, we have decided to propose a open discussion where everyone will have the right to say how they feel about this and to recount their own stories without shame and without blame. We will attempt to create a space of listening and compassion, where people can tell their stories and where new approaches to justice and intimacy may be glimpsed.